If you live in the St. Louis area, there’s an in-person group that is starting through this book today and for the next few months. Let me know and I’ll you hook you up! For them, I thought it might be helpful if I made an index of posts so far.
Introduction to Twelve Steps to a Compassionate Life
The First Step: Learn About Compassion
The Second Step: Look at Your Own World
- Correcting my lenses
- Compassion for Trump Supporters
- Forward Through Ferguson
- Adding a Commission Report to my planning procedure
The Third Step: Self-Compassion
- Exploring self-compassion
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I learned that I get stuck on a notion of compassion that is about giving comfort and offering sympathy. I’m not that good at those, for myself or anyone else.
Fortunately, that’s not the only aspect of compassion that Twelve Steps to a Compassionate Life talks about. I’ve also learned that sympathy and comforting are not the most useful aspects of compassion for anti-racism work. Compassion can look like providing options. Compassion can look like a plan to get a better result from the current situation. Compassion can look like a structure that puts an option into place and a plan into action.
I’m better at working out options, planning solutions, and setting up structures to make them happen. Those are exactly the kinds of supports that make me feel better, too. Sometimes, I think what I want for self-compassion is sympathy and comfort, but nothing is as comforting to me as a good plan.
So, I got some unexpected self-knowledge from the exercises. I also found them to be calming — that might be the best result I can get from better practices of self-compassion.
I have more exercises to go, so I’m going to keep working with these. What have you done for self-compassion this week?